For Men
You’ve just found out that your partner might be pregnant. Although it’s not your body that is affected physically, you may feel just as scared and uncertain as she does. It is hard to know what the next step should be in a situation you’ve never experienced before, which is why we are here for you.
After a positive pregnancy test, emotions and stress levels are likely running high on both sides; however, it is important to remember that you are not in this alone. This situation may seem out of your control right now, but you do have choices too.
Care Net Manasota is here to help you through the decisions and fears. We are here to provide a judgement free zone through our men’s class: Knighthood. It is for men, taught by men. It is available to honestly communicate information about the options regarding the pregnancy, and to help you become the best man and father you can be. We believe in you, and remember, all of our services are free and confidential.
DO
- LISTEN: The situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to think about.
- STAY CALM: She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you too.
- TALK ABOUT IT: Not only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
- GATHER ALL THE FACTS: Get all the information and seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for all of you.
- EXPRESS YOURSELF HONESTLY: it’s normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.
DON'T
- DON’T BAIL: The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.
- DON’T PRESSURE HER: Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team.
- DON’T FORGET: You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.